I'm never going to stop saying that things can and do change in an instant. Anyone who has ever experienced sudden loss can more easily grasp this than someone who has only ever known what life looks like when it's great. It is easier and preferable to accept when things improve over when things suddenly take a turn and we must deveop coping mechanisms in response. - I didn't just say that to say that things have taken a turn.- On the contrary, things are better than ever and it is thanks to an outlook change, one that I have been trying to implement for over a year. I had previously trained myself to see the downside of things, to focus on all of the ways that things could go wrong in a pre
When I first began this journey towards motherhood, I only had a vague idea of what to expect from reading articles, from general knowledge about science because...SCIENCE, and I still had no clue until I put all of this into practice. I have had to rely quite a bit on my mommy friends in order to ask them about whether or not something has been standard or acceptable from the first flutters that I felt to the contractions that I now experience. So this list is just a small compilation of the foolishness that has befallen me these past 4574564 weeks. I expected the cravings to subside, and in many severe ways, they have. While the scent and food aversions are not as strong now, the food desi
Life can change in a day. That is what I tell myself when things get upsetting or overwhelming. It is also what I say to clients and friends, (when they ask me for my advice or opinion,) because it's true. It can come off as a platitude when your outlook is bleak and cannot see the forest through the trees. However, the fact remains that it is true. My lived experience has shown me that, in one day, you can hear from the job you applied for, yet forgot about, just when your financial situations seems dire. You can meet someone that changes your life just by walking around the corner. You can be gifted the words of encouragement from a stranger, just when the people closest to you seem to for
When I thought about breastfeeding as a journey, I had inconveniently forgotten that there were going to be people handling my baby that weren't always going to have milk on hand to feed her. [COULDA HAD A V8 SLAP HERE.] These people include, but are not limited to: daycare providers, grandparents and other family members, friends who have agreed to babysit, and other caregivers—as needed. Really, the list was longer than I thought. I don't plan on being a mom trying to do "it all," and refusing to bathe, sleep, or whatever the case migh—neglecting personal hygiene. No, I can't actually afford to be that person because I have to work and I have two small businesses that require my attention,
The last couple of weeks have been a ride, no pun intended. In other parts of the country, we have had storms and we have had gusts of wind make it here from the Sahara. With those winds, came storms. I love a good storm, but these made me keenly aware of a problem...several problems. I am currently in settlement talks regarding the issue of my wrongfully repossessed Hyundai Santa Fe. It was taken two years ago and I had to hurriedly replace it to keep me going to work, enriching the lives of others. I replaced it with a 2008 Buick Enclave which was fully loaded for its model year and came with leather seats, a sun and moonroof, and a great many other things. I thought that it would make a g
A while back, I signed up for a service called Qeepsake, which is designed to make creating a baby's memory book simple and painless. They text you a series' of questions and then you reply to them and can add pictures of moments that stood out to you. Eventually, you have the option to order a book with all of your musings in it. Well, my thing is... I usually have more to say than just a text. I'm also disabled, so I prefer to dictate long entries. So, I thought that I'd just migrate all of that over to my blog where I can then create my own book later. For me, I want to be as honest as I can possibly be about my pregnancy and the fact that this is not easy for me. One question that recent